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By Amaka Chika-Mbonu January 29, 2019 In Blog

Let’s Talk About Sex

Lets Talk About Sex – In Marriage That Is…

‘The Books’ certainly do

 Are holiness, spirituality and sexuality (in marriage) incompatible, and diametrically opposed?

Scripture doesn’t seem to bear this out.

Sex and sexual love are explored fully, deeply and quite explicitly in the word of God


 Shula was very excited; her lover was coming home this evening.

Sex should be a passionate, passion-filled, satisfying, desire-quenching leaving both the husband and wife fully sated.

The air-conditioning blew softly in the background. The diffusers emitting a musky, sensual fragrance. She had on that little red thing he liked to see her in. She hadn’t always been this confident in her ability to express her feelings -these kind of feelings to him- but they’d been through a lot together. The things he said to her, and wrote to her, they made her dark skin blush just to think about them, like when he said, “I love your…” and “the way your…” she had always thought her upper thighs were too big, but he said they were….

These things he continually said to her had empowered her, made her bolder, given her the confidence in her body, mind, and looks to tell him, “smother me with kisses…all over.”

There he is now, she heard him opening the door to their bedroom. She positioned herself just right and said softly, seductively,

“Welcome home my darling, come in and…” ( excerpt from, ‘How To Get Your Wife To Swing From The Chandelier In A Red Negligée: A Biblical Perspective’)

 This is my rendering of the verses from Song of Solomon 1:2; 4:16; 7:1-9 in today’s parlance.

 “SEX is not a word to be whispered and sniggered about quietly so that no one else hears. It is a natural thing, without which the human specie would soon be extinct” (excerpt from, ‘How To Get Your Wife To Swing From The Chandelier In A Red Negligée: A Biblical Perspective’)

…and NEWSFLASH!!! GOD knows all about it, He knew each time Adam knew Eve Genesis 4:1, 25; when Cain knew his wife Genesis 4:17; when Abraham knew Sarah, Genesis 21:2.

He created it, and because He loves us provided guidelines for it.

 According to ‘The Books’

Sex should be a passionate, passion-filled,  satisfying, desire-quenching leaving both the husband and wife fully sated. I say this because ‘The Books’ describe sex as a burning desire that can be pleasurably ‘dealt’ with within marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:9 …for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Sex is sacred, within the confines of marriage

Hebrews 13:4 …the marriage bed undefiled [by immorality or by any sexual sin]…

In marriage the mans body is the wife’s to derive pleasure from, and the woman’s body, the husbands for that same reason. Neither party should deny the other this pleasure, it is a ‘due’ (owed) benevolence, 1 Corinthians 7:3-4

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence:and likewise also the husband unto the wife.‘The Books’ describe doing such as fraud

1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye no one the other…

 There is and should be a physical joining and union of bodies in marriage. The word of God in Genesis 2:24  says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife:and they shall become one flesh.” Refers to this physical union in,

Mark 10:8  And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh and yet again in, Ephesians 5:31 “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and that two shall be one flesh.”

And in case anyone is of the opinion that this ‘one flesh’ is just symbolic when people are joined as man and wife, the Word talks about the perverse, converse aberration of this when a man… or woman joins themselves to a harlot, 1 Corinthians 6:16

 Sex does, and should involve various different body parts, including the mouth, active, and actively vocalizing intimate things.

‘The Books’ are not reticent, or guarded, shielded or prudish, about this beautiful expression of love in marriage that God Himself created, rather it is expressed quite graphically Proverbs 5:19 “…let her (your wife’s) bosom (breasts Christians) satisfy you at all times, and always be transported with delight in her love”

Song of Solomon 4:16 ”…blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden and eat his pleasant fruits”

 Song of Solomon 7:7-8 This thy stature is like to a palm tree, and thy breasts to clusters of grapes.

I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine

All this and more is given by God to be enjoyed ONLY in the marriage union. It is reminiscent of the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, Genesis 2: 16- 17 And the Lord God commanded the man saying, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou majestic freely eat. BUT…

 SEX is godly, it is enjoyable, sating, at times mind-blowing, taking one to pleasurable heights of ecstasy BUT… within the boundaries of marriage.  Adam and Eve ignored this instruction to their peril, and we are suffering the results of this to this day, Romans 5:12 Wherefore as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin…

So, are you married? Have you had any good sex lately? If not, go have some, its allowed, and encouraged by the ultimate authority, God.

Guys pre-prepare her for tips get my book ‘How To Get Your Wife To Swing From The Chandelier In A Red Negligée: A Biblical Perspective’**

Ladies, cut him some slack, learn to express what gets you ready for him by reading my book too.

I’d love to hear you comments on this article, so do get in touch,

** The book, ‘How To Get Your Wife To Swing From The Chandelier In A Red Negligée: A Biblical Perspective is also available on Amazon Kindle iBooks Nook Konga Okada Books and my website Amaka Chika-Mbonu

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