{"id":912,"date":"2019-01-31T10:06:00","date_gmt":"2019-01-31T10:06:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/amakachika-mbonu.com\/?p=912"},"modified":"2025-05-02T13:08:33","modified_gmt":"2025-05-02T13:08:33","slug":"i-want-the-fairy-tale","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/amakachika-mbonu.com\/nws\/i-want-the-fairy-tale\/","title":{"rendered":"I Want The Fairy Tale"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Another Valentine\u2019s Day\u2019s here again. Flowers, candy, and cards. Love is in the air and everywhere. Most people love love, and for us women, many of us want the fairytale. BUT, is it real?<\/p>\n\n

We\u2019ve all read the fairy-tales, Cinderella, Snow White, watched the movies, Nollywood, Hollywood, Bollywood where boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, they stare into each others eyes, its electrifying, they may face some challenge or obstacle along the way but, they overcome, their love conquers all, they get married, ride off into the sunset together and from there on out, live happily ever after.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n\n

But\u2026 anyone who\u2019s been married for any length of time will tell you that this is definitely not quite exactly how the cookie crumbles. They would also tell you that marriage is not for babies, neither is it for the faint of heart. It is for mature, (not always a function of age) disciplined people, who understand the nature, and the full ramifications of true commitment<\/em><\/p>\n\n

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I read or heard somewhere (can\u2019t remember where) that \u201cHappily Ever After\u201d\u00a0(the fairy-tale)\u00a0is a story that hasn\u2019t ended yet. True Talk!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n

Every woman wants the \u2018Fairy-tale\u2019\u00a0 but is the fairy-tale\u00a0notion of marriage, fantasy, fiction, or fact?<\/em><\/p>\n\n

Most women want to be wooed, pursued, constantly affirmed, and reaffirmed. It\u2019s a good feeling right? The fact that you know,\u00a0<\/em>that you know, that you know<\/em>,\u00a0<\/em>that this guy really wants you<\/em>,<\/em>\u00a0and is ready<\/em>,<\/em>\u00a0willing<\/em>,<\/em>\u00a0and able to take the necessary steps to try to have you<\/em>, to get you, and keep getting you, even when married<\/em>. It\u00a0<\/em>makes you feel tingly all\u00a0 over, it makes you feel special and<\/em>\u00a0desired, it\u2019s heady, giddy, it\u2019s exciting, it\u2019s flattering it\u2019s . . . unreal?<\/em><\/p>\n\n

Fast forward 5, 10, 15 years later, in marriage, and even if you came out in sackcloth<\/em>\u00a0\u00a0<\/em>and<\/em>\u00a0ashes, shaved your head, rimmed your eyes round with white chalk like a witch doctor and announced loudly \u201cI\u2019m ready\u201d, he\u2019d probably look up\u00a0<\/em>and<\/em>\u00a0say something like \u201cAbout time too, let\u2019s go, we\u2019re late\u201d.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

The question is, and I\u2019m asking this sincerely, why can\u2019t the pursuit resulting in this heady, exciting, giddy feeling<\/em>,<\/em>\u00a0at least for us women<\/em>,<\/em>\u00a0be taken into into marriage, and even if it could, sHould it?<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>I read or heard somewhere (can\u2019t remember where) that \u201cHappily Ever After\u201d<\/em>\u00a0(the fairy-tale)<\/em>\u00a0is a story that hasn\u2019t ended yet. True Talk!<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>How come all the things he did to get you, he refuses<\/em>,<\/em>\u00a0or claims he doesn\u2019t know how to do, to keep you?<\/em><\/p>\n\n

Guys can you hear me? Answers please.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>Remember when he\u2019d call you on the phone and speak for hours on end about everything and anything under the sun. Now you can barely get a decipherable grunt out of him on a good day, on a bad day just a glare.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

Research says men have xx words and women xxxxxxxxxx. Really???<\/em><\/p>\n\n

Funny this wasn\u2019t the case when you were, to use the old-fashioned word\u2026 \u2018wooing me\u2019.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

When you\u2019d ask where I was going, how long I was going to be there, could you pick me up, have dinner. . . Just see me. Wow<\/em>\u2019<\/em>\u00a0times change.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

Or take for instance the fact that when you got dressed up to go anywhere, he\u2019d take a long hard look at you from the top to the bottom, (not bottom, bottom, that too, but I\u2019m talking about to your feet), and say something, that each time you\u2019d remember it during the course of the evening and even for some weeks to come, you\u2019d blush and feel tingly all over.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

A series I watched on Telly, a beautiful woman came out all dressed up and her h<\/em>usband<\/em>\u00a0said<\/em>\u00a0to her,\u00a0<\/em>\u201cif that\u2019s my birthday present(meaning her), I can\u2019t wait to unwrap it\u201d. Guess that\u2019s just \u2018in the movies\u2019.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>They\u2019re so many\u00a0<\/em>examples\u00a0 one could give,\u00a0<\/em>\u00a0but let\u2019s look at this last one \u2018cos I guess by now guys and gals alike you\u2019ve got the picture.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>How about the fact that even after a hard daY at work in the evenings you couldn\u2019t wait to get me out of whatever I was in and make love to me.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>After this hard day at work, we could cuddle up and watch a movie. Despite work, we could talk, laugh, play, fight<\/em>,\u00a0<\/em>and makeup. What has changed?<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>I guess like I said at the beginning of this article, \u2018\u2026unreAl\u2019? \u2018Only in the movies\u2019.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>Maybe love just changes, fades, matures.<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>But I sure do miss \u201cThe Passion Of Pursuit<\/em>.\u201d\u00a0<\/em>Do you?<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>Since our God Himself instituted marriage and the marriage covenant, lets look at His blueprint for it since\u00a0His word is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path, Psalm 119:105<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

What is our God-given entitlement as legitimately married women or women looking forward to being married. Does it include the fairy-tale?<\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>It is very important to explore this, as it will enable us to violently claim what is ours as of right, if it is indeed included in \u2018The Books.\u2019\u00a0Matthew 11:12\u00a0 And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of Heaven suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0always bearing in mind though that\u00a02 Corinthians 10:4\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0says\u00a0the weapons of our warfare are not carnal\u2026<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>\u2018The Books\u2019\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>say that we should be loved completely, passionately, and sacrificially by our husbands, and the standard and the yardstick for the love we are to be the recipient of, is none other than the Creator of the heavens and the earth Himself,\u00a0Ephesians 5:25 Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>We are to be nourished, and cherished,\u00a0Ephesians 5:28-29 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: \u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

To husband He says in he ought to love you as his own body, he is to nourish you and cherish you as the Lord does the church.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em>We are to be loved exclusively, no third party should be in this relationship bar God. We are not suppose to have to compete with his mother, father, sister, brother, friend nor any strange woman for his love, attention, and\/or support\u00a0Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5; Ephesians 5:31 \u2026a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and they two shall be one flesh.\u00a0<\/strong>God created them male and female,\u00a0Genesis 1:27, 5:2; Matthew 19:4; Mark 10:6.\u00a0<\/strong>No extramarital relationships,\u00a0Exodus 20:14; Matthew 5:27-28<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>We are not out of order to expect understanding, and to be understood by our husbands as \u2018The Books\u2019 say\u00a0Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor\u00a0to the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers\u00a0 be not hindered, 1 Peter 3:7<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>We would be deluding ourselves if we didn\u2019t expect that there would be challenges and obstacles, offences and persecution will come,\u00a0Matthew 18:7; Luke 17:1; John 16:33; 2 Timothy 3:12<\/strong>\u00a0but the truth is that if we let it, deep, intense, fervent love can, will, and does have the potential to conquer all, to overcome, and to cover a multitude of sins,\u00a0John 16:33b;1 Peter 4:8<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

I want the fairytale, I want to be wooed, pursued, affirmed\u2026 often.\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>Unreal? Just the fodder of movies? I\u2019m inclined not to think so. The fairytale is not all there is to marriage, but it is most definitely a part of it.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>WHAT DO YOU THINK?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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